HEARTCODESThoughtful Contemporary Ceremonies and Quiet Counsel
An Interfaith Aproach
Interfaith is something I live and breathe
My own spiritual practice is a woven connection of many paths, and I know it can work. I look for the spiritual center that we all share. Whether you are a Protestant-Hindu couple about to marry, a Jewish-humanist family with a baby to name, a Taoist-Catholic family who wants to bless a house in a way that both families will accept, or a family that has no religious history, but is trying to find a spacious way to honor a deceased agnostic uncle, I will be happy to work with exactly what is meaningful to you to craft a ceremony.
When we work together, I will listen for your spiritual signals to create a meaningful and connected experience.
Heather Roan Robbins M.ThBook Today
I have two metaphors that help me describe my Interfaith perspective, one mathematical, the other biological. My father was a set theorist (an abstract mathematician that looked for patterns), he often used a diagram of intersecting sets, a Venn diagram, to describe phenomena. For example: I am looking for all our blue cups, i.e. the intersection between the set of all cups, and the set of all our objects that are blue.
What I look for in the interfaith movement is the intersecting set, that which all faiths have in common, whether they know it or not– and from that common ground, to appreciate the unique gift of each path, the special medicine each one has to offer. I think the interfaith movement– by shifting the focus to the common denominators and away from differentiating factors–offers a gift to the world. But since those differentiations are what some people identify with most, they are exactly what can cause tension him, and will need all our expansive heart to include and reach around.
My spouse is a cell biologist; after long talks about how symbolism is a common thread that connects spirituality and cell biology, another of my favorite interfaith images comes from the body. I see each one of us as an individual cell working within the body of the One. My reality as a separate individual is true, to deny it is to not get work done and take care of myself. But I am also a cell operating within the reality of the needs of an organ (my family and culture) which operates within the body of the whole -Creator-creation/Spirit/God/the One. And if I deny either reality, I can become cancer-like -just replicating myself and doing what works for me, not for the good of the whole-- or I can forget to live up to my potential and do what I was born to do.
Both realities are clear and true– independent existence is real, as in our connection to the whole; it’s just a perspective shift. It’s impractical and careless to get lost in Oneness and neglect my individual reality. But it can get existentially lonely when I am stuck in my independent cell-mind. Spiritual pain can be defined as that sense of separation and isolation, and spiritual ease can be defined by connection, connection to one another, to a cause, to the One. Spiritual practice mediates the realm between the two, it can help us shift out of our solitary cell-mind and into connection.
In a pragmatic view, our rituals can be doorways into a place of spiritual connection – a place where we can hold ceremony, wed, welcome a child, or bless a house. These ceremonies are made of the patterns and spiritual signals we garner from our family’s traditions or from spiritual paths significant for us because of our experience or philosophy; symbols and signals that work for us and place us in a spiritual context.
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